So what does make a marriage last a lifetime? I once heard this question asked to a couple celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. The husband simply replied, "Going out to dinner twice a week". "Thatís it?" asked the interviewer. "Yes," answered the husband, "I go on Tuesdays and my wife goes on Thursdays". Surely there must be a better way!
Another step we can take to protect our marriage against divorce is to learn the "art" of the repair attempt. Repair attempts, or statements and actions that prevent negativity from getting out of control, are the secret to keeping the Four Horsemen at bay.
Stepfamilies donít have a family treeóthey have a family forest!And even without trying, your marriage can easily get lost in the forest (or is it ďyou canít see the marriage for the treesĒ?).So how can you bind together despite the forestís attempt to pull you apart?One answer is making intentional use of marital rituals.
All work and no play may make Jack a dull boy, but thatís only the beginning.It makes Jack and Jillís marriage pretty dull, too.Fun, friendship, and romance is likely how your relationship got started.Be sure to intentionally keep it an active part of your relationship forever.
Helppppp!!!I married this great guy/girl with these really great kids. At least, I thought they were these really great kids when I met him/her. But now, after only a few months of marriage, they seem to be pulling us apart...
Research of over 50,000 couples in stepfamilies has revealed a never-before understood aspect of successful remarriage. Learn how you can build one of the top five predictors of intimate relationships in this 3-part series.
Part 2 of a series on Couple Flexibility based on the largest study of remarriage ever conducted. Learn how you can build one of the top five predictors of intimate relationships in this 3-part series.
Part 3 of a series on Couple Flexibility. So what makes someone flexible?How do you teach someone to be flexible?When our research uncovered the importance of flexibility, these questions began to trouble me.Is flexibility a natural personality trait which people either possess or they donít?What attitudes lay at the heart of a flexible lifestyle?
...we allhave a past. Unfortunately, one of the results of the past is emotional baggage, and having tons of unopened baggage can be deadly to a new stepfamily. So, take a deep breath and fight that urge to throw all your bags into the attic or hide them in storage. We have some unpacking to do.
In a national survey, unhappy remarriage couples were four times as likely as happy couples to report feeling concerned about the previous sexual experiences of their partner. Here are some suggestions for not getting caught in the past.
Sexpectations influence sexual attitudes and ones belief about what constitutes ďgood sex.ĒMisguided sexpectations can set a couple up for disappointment and disillusionment with their sexual experiences.But healthy sexpectations contribute to more positive sexual experiences...
"Ron has changed my life, my family, and our church forever. As both a Senior Pastor and a stepparent I have found his materials invaluable and his insights profound. Navigating stepfamily life is a delicate process, the competing allegiances in even the best stepfamilies can be so very confounding, but Ronís biblical wisdom goes a long way to minimizing unnecessary collisions and unnecessary pain. If you are in a stepfamily, like I am, do whatever it takes to get Ronís material and to attend his seminars, I promise you it is worth it."
Rob Bugh, Senior PastorWheaton Bible Church, Chicago, IL
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