Don't be part of the problem.One study found that half of subjects in therapy suffered from the treatment received because their clinician lacked specific knowledge about common stepfamily dynamics. Prepare yourself to be an asset, not a liability. Click the video to the right to watch three successive videos with Ron Deal talking about working with stepfamily couples (or click the playlist button to select the one you want to watch). [Reference: Pasley, K. , Rhoden, L., Visher, E.B., & Visher, J. S. (1996).Successful stepfamily therapy: Client’s perspectives.Journal of Marriage and the family, 22, 343-357.]
·Therapy with Stepfamilies– article by Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC providing an overview of remarriage and stepfamily assessment and intervention. An essential guide for learning how to counsel stepfamilies.
·Stepfamily Developmental Tasks– download a PDF quick reference guide by Ron L. Deal describing the key developmental tasks for stepfamilies over three periods of time: before the wedding, during the integration years (first 7 years), and beyond 8 years of marriage. Plus, separate charts describe the tasks of stepfamilies following death, divorce, and an out-of-wedlock birth. Ron candidly calls this his “cheat sheet” for ministry leaders and therapists.
·Couple Checkup inventory – have dating, engaged, and remarried couple’s take the online Couple Checkup (powered by PREPARE/ENRICH) before or during treatment. You will get an x-ray of their strengths and couples’ receive dynamic feedback (and intervention) for their relationship. Counselors may choose to use the more detailed version PREPARE/ENRICH (visit www.prepare-enrich.com).
·Stepfamily Ministry– encourage your congregation to build a supportive, educational ministry to couples in stepfamilies. Learn about available resources and how to structure the ministry here.
·Marriage Intensives – difficult cases and crisis couple’s may benefit from a 2 or 3-day Marriage Therapy Intensive with Ron L. Deal. He will work with you to provide after care following the intensive.
·Therapy with Stepfamilies training– find training workshops throughout the country here...
·Recommended Resources – includes a list of web sites, books, and video resources for both clients and therapists.
·Statistics on Marriage, Divorce, & Remarriage in America.
"Ron has changed my life, my family, and our church forever. As both a Senior Pastor and a stepparent I have found his materials invaluable and his insights profound. Navigating stepfamily life is a delicate process, the competing allegiances in even the best stepfamilies can be so very confounding, but Ron’s biblical wisdom goes a long way to minimizing unnecessary collisions and unnecessary pain. If you are in a stepfamily, like I am, do whatever it takes to get Ron’s material and to attend his seminars, I promise you it is worth it."
Rob Bugh, Senior PastorWheaton Bible Church, Chicago, IL